Posted by panch from pool0349.cvx25-bradley.dialup.earthlink.net (22.214.171.124) on Wednesday, July 17, 2002 at 2:07AM :
In Reply to: you choose to read... posted by Lilly from ? (126.96.36.199) on Tuesday, July 16, 2002 at 8:34PM :
: & you choose to believe it or not.
: On another note, *making* someone into a scapegoat is NOT the same thing as merely posting something that someone can choose to read. There is blame being put on someone besides the poster, this person is *forced* to become personally involved even though the rest of the readers are not put in the same shoes, in the first case; in the second case, there is no direct personal involvement for anyone except the poster, beyond reading.
: THAT is the difference. I'm calling your bluff about this "tough love" nonsense. Do you do the same thing to your kids? Or anyone else you genuinely care for? If you do, how does it feel? There is no such thing as "tough love." & those people who think they are practicing it are either purposefully cruel & don't give a damn about the person they are acting on OR they have learned it from someone else & practice it blindly.
++++I have never hung it over anyone's head, and I wouldn't associate with the kinds of people who do...certainly not for four years. You were abused once...you decided it had certain things to offer and have been abusing yourself since. We all know men want to sleep with women...what I find amazing is that they all want to sleep with YOU!
: Give me a break, Fred. You never gave a damn about me as a friend.
++++We were never "friends"...neither have we been properly introduced...I'm old fashioned that way.
& to anyone else who does this to me, the same thing goes for you. I gave you hell because you were trashing my name, my forum identity, for no reason.
+++That's not true...I did too have a reason...I felt like it.
If I wanted real "tough love" I'd ask someone I know who genuinely cares about me to hit me
+++And I'll bet you've got lots of dear and sensitive yet firm friends who'd be only too glad to do it.
- & they wouldn't do it, not if they cared. I'd fully expect them to walk away.
++++Then they can't be real friends. I'd walk away too...but only after popping you one...I figure you ought to give a p[erson what they ask for...if it's respect, give it to them...if it's a slap...slug 'em one.
+++Okay...what is it this time...Pepto Bismal? You been doing aspirins again? Boy, you college kids know how to live it up. It isn't just that you're maudlin and mawkish...it's that you enjoy it so much!
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