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Habibi
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- Friday, July 9 2004, 17:18:56 (CEST) from -  Windows XP -  Internet ExplorerWebsite: Website title: |
Look Qasrani, I just had this really long response all typed up for you, but I must've pressed the wrong button on the mouse, because it disappeared. Let me briefly summarize my thoughts. I don't equate feminism with another form of sexism. I love men. In fact, I'm ragingly heterosexual and I openly admire beyond words certain male individuals. I love men who are not complete products of the male-chauvanistic culture that surrounds me. There's no changing my mind about the way I see this culture, either. And, I don't think that I'll be able to convince you to see it my way, at least not right now. The fact is, Qasrani, I WANT more women around me in my workplace. I WANT to get to a place where I can help more women up, too. I WANT a group of girls who aren't just my friends, but my colleagues as well. I WANT to talk shop with women, not only men. I WANT a network with more women in it. I don't particularly care for the inappropriate male attention that's being thrown at me at work - it's not cute. It's completely demeaning and annoying. It's different if I'm interested in a guy, but I just don't like the goddamn question marks that surround some of the interactions that I have with male superiors or colleagues at work. I never asked for this. All I ever wanted was a place where I could work in peace. I'm not going to kiss ass by flirting or let a guy ignore me because he primarily defines me as a "woman," not as a "colleague," or "equal," or even "smart." You know, I have a very close friend who's Liberian - probably have known him for close to 8 years. He and I get into discussions about our experiences as grad students here. He's had similar problems trying to be taken seriously, but because of his race. Having to deal with men here has made it possible for me to see his side of the story. He's going to have to get a second degree just to allow him to pursue his dream of becoming a full-fledged researcher someday. Not only is he African and it's a bit hard for people to take him seriously (which is a subtle form of racism), but he's a foreigner, so he can't even get most of the grants a future PhD would. He'll have to pay out of his own pocket to get an MD - an extra $100,000-200,000 - on top of his PhD, just to have the same rights to funding that I would have. He's not wealthy - he's bugging people to sponsor him, and it's really hard. Imagine that - and we've "progressed" so much.... --------------------- |
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